Expressing your concerns – along with how much you love her – should motivate your wife to compromise. I think it's going to be a strain on your relationship if he doesn't understand the need for him to stay home so you should explain that to him, of course he'll get defensive,  but hopefully he will ultimately put his family first. Subject: How often do you perform oral sex on your husband Anonymous In most forums, if a man isn't getting oral and complains, he's selfish and/or possibly not attending to her needs. Two weeks later, you find yourself at a birthday party with food and alcohol around you and you have an internal battle about whether you should go for it and get back on track on Monday OR you sit there miserable and watch everyone else have a good time. Then, try to come up with a compromise. Anonymous: I travel a lot to India with a large consulting firm (Acc$&@;*^%#][{}) my DW does dick/balls when I walk in the door. Perhaps, you can suggest limits on the amount of time your wife and her friend spend alone or you could ask to tag along sometimes. Mine would be a big baby if he couldn't hunt too. I am going to get my hair done this evening which will be 2-3 hours so that will be nice. You should say it as often as works for you, but I mean you both— you as a couple. A few times he has gone out in the evening to play Magic cards (we're pretty geeky up in here!). It is not fair, it worries you. It's only really for occasions - birthdays, weddings or Xmas Do's. We barely argue, let alone fight. This. As the title says, how often do you go out without your partner/husband etc? : Our daughter is just over two months old and my husband is upset because I want him to stay home this weekend. Maybe it's time to have a conversation about how things have changed, and although you like to see him happy and sometimes happy means getting a break, when your famiky needs him, your family needs him. It […] Your husband should hear you out in tough times, absolutely. Once a week, maybe. It is definitely wrong. I have a 7yr old and she might as well be a teenager already and the time has flown by. Do you think he is going out to avoid you? Better yet, try to make one night a week or every other week that you get a sitter and have date night for the two of you. I would ask him to limit it to once a week if it is affecting his responsibilities at home. And kids' feelings count. I go out maybe once a month with my friends… Mine has poker tonight and going to a football game tomorrow .. They play golf occasionally. Ahhh, the “friends with an ex” conversation. If we had 3 kids and I was having to do everything while he played 3 nights a week, we'd have to have a talk. If he refuses to give it up or cheerfully cooperate, drag him to counselling while you still care where he is. Find out what to do if your husband or wife has a good friend of the opposite sex, which makes you jealous and uncomfortable. Is it okay if I sleep on my belly sometimes? how often does your husband go out with his friends? With work colleagues or other friends - very rarely. Sounds to me like he is messing around. Your 'out-of-town friend' needs to be set straight, lest … You need his help and support. I would have trouble calculating an "appropriate" amount of nights for my partner to spend with friends. Blah! Lol. Are these workers females?????? "It's important to not develop codependent relationships where you can't do anything independently. What more do you need to stick up for yourself and your children? Our daughter is just over two months old and my husband is upset because I want him to stay home this weekend. How do you think about the answers? When I'm having a bad day it makes me mad that he can just pick up and still go do the things he used to do. However, I do accept the invite to hang with him and his male family members more often, at least once a month. He also plays Sunday afternoon for 2-2.5 hours. Whether your relationship ended by mutual agreement or feelings on your end that you see your significant other as more of a friend than a lover, the “I’d like us to still be friends” conversation often comes into play. Tucking them in every night. The only people that my husband goes away without me is hunting with his family. Tammy Duell on January 19, 2018 at 12:53 pm This sounds so much like my life but we dont hardly have sex anymore and when we do its all about him. He has gone out with his friends a handful of times since she was born, attended hockey games (for work), and gone out to the cottage with friends a number of weekends (it’s a new build and there was work to do). Quiz: Should I stay or should I go? He seems to be going out a little too much. At the same time, I see two problems (maybe 3): 1) You'd like him to want to spend a little more time with you and the kids. My husband and I always did things together and all of a sudden he wants to go a 3 or 4 gambling trips with his friends. ( The same is true for husbands as well.) ... What … Of course, most of us were single, most of us were female, and none of us were looking for anything like romance within the group. Mine plays hockey on Thursday evening, he's gone from 9pm until 11pm sometimes a little later. When you married your husband, you gained a whole new family. Psychiatrist and author Scott Carroll says there is a rule as to how often you should hang out with someone new you're dating that you'd be wise to follow. I forced him once to see his friends and instead of going out he invited them all at the house. Have a game night. We didn't go out much in the beginning, but we are out 3-4 times a week. I'm hoping this will change as he ages, and right now DH and I have a tally, he knows every evening he goes out is an evening I get when LO can be left with him for an extended period of time. Ahhh, the “friends with an ex” conversation. Remember that you are lovers first and then parents. hes a grown man not your child. Sex How Often Should Couples Have Sex? My LO hasn’t been sleeping well and I am so overtired that I am not sure if I can trust my judgment. Don't tell him he can't go out----you are not his mommy. But, I think it is normal for married men to go out with their friends. The #1 app for tracking pregnancy and baby growth. When one person is hurting, it can harm the relationship. Should my husband go to a 5 day cruise bachelor party and leave me alone on my birthday? Do the workouts you love. It completely changes our dynamics and lets me see an entirely different side to him. 2-3 times a week i think is a little overboard but you cant tell him hes only ALLOWED to go out 1 time a month. No kids, no work, no schedule, just you two. I usually let her go out with her friends but now she wants to go for a girls weekend away with some old school friends. I say let him go. When my husband and I started dating, I thought it was out of line that he expected me not to be friends with a person I had been friends with years before he came into the picture, but then I thought about how hurt I would be if he was close friends with a girl. Mine has been out hunting for the past probably 4 weekends. DH goes out every Saturday to hang with his friends for a few hours in the afternoon, to 'get out of the house' as he puts it. Often people don’t realize the long term impact of how they’re acting. But even just late night shopping with a friend, the gym, selling parties at friends (ie Body shop, Candle parties etc). 3. My husband doesn't work (retired) so when I am at work, he goes with his buddy and they run errands. I want my wife to hang out with you some. I always want to go down on her, I love it. He goes to a study group every Tuesday and eats lunch out. Or arrange a Date Night once a week. In most cases, that's OK -- they are your husband's friends, not yours. Your female friends play an important role in meeting needs that he can’t meet, but to have those needs met by other men is risky. "He told me they are just friends, but he has been leaving me to go hang out with her," she frets. He is the dad to those kids and should be bathing them and helping them with homework. And I dont just mean on wild crazy nights ie not necessarily the pub, a party, club etc. If you "felt bad," then go out and share your bj's with other … DH works a late shift and gets in at 1 am on weekdays, I know how hard it can be to have a fussy, sleepless evening/night without your SO. I think 2-3 times per week is a bit too much considering you have 3 children (a lot of work and responsibility). ... Not because I can't go out without my husband, but b/c I really don't have any desire to do that sort of thing these … He's gone out a number of times. Last night it was the neighbor's birthday so I went out with her - she and I are good friends - and they commented on how often my husband goes out (they live across the street so they can see who comes and goes.) ... There’s often a reason why men won’t hang out with other& guys. Likewise, if a man doesn't want his wife going to clubs alone, or vice versa If she just wants to catch up with girlfriends who are in love with their boyfriend, fiancé or husband, then you’ve got nothing to worry about. Isn't this wrong. 2) You probably don't get to go out with your friends, and you really miss that Me Time since you spend your day being Mommy. Talk about big picture goals. My boyfriend barely goes out to see friends, I've been out more then him to be honest but I normally bring my little girl with me since he works all the time. This is his choice, not mine. Your boyfriend, girlfriend, husband, or wife doesn’t need to say “for your … I’m so hurt. Whatever you are going through, you are not alone. So if you’re currently going back and forth over your prospects as a couple, don’t worry: you’re not alone. I bought the guy I’m talking to a Christmas gift and he won’t accept it. My husband and I get along well. So if you care about saving your relationship, and you most likely do, then you really need to talk to him about this and figure out why he's still so involved with his female friends. It turns out she was often getting bored halfway through sex, which is even more unimaginable to me than having enough time and energy to have sex every day. Symptômes de grossesse à ne jamais ignorer, Moyens naturels pour déclencher l'accouchement, We subscribe to the HONcode principles of the. I was a bar owner and tended the bar 6 nights a week. That way you both have fun. And if you agree that once a week with friends is good, then get out the calendar and schedule it in: he has his friends on Saturday and you have your friends (or knitting group, or women’s Bible study) on another night. It seems my spouse goes out way more than I do with friends, about twice a week. him a little but going out once a week is very normal with buddies. We fly out of town for dinner at least once a month. 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